When you just can't make up your mind 0
What do you do when you're faced with a big decision?
Do you spend days and nights obsessing about the pros and cons? Do you drive your family and friends crazy, asking them what they would do in your situation?
Do you pore over your computer, researching every potential problem or outcome? Do you jump right in and hope you're doing the right thing?
Or do you hem and haw for so long that eventually, so much time goes by that the opportunity or moment passes, and life makes up your mind for you?
It's been said that we're all the sum of our choices.
If this is true, then we really don't have anyone else to blame for where we find ourselves in life.
But maybe it's not that simple. Maybe sometimes we have no idea that we're making a mistake.
Poor judgment can often make us lose our way.
A certain relationship can seem like a dream come true until your rose-coloured glasses come off.
Many of us buy homes based on a two minute walk through with a realtor. Then, when you move in, you find out you're the proud new owner of a money pit that endlessly needs repairs.
You can choose a career path not really knowing how much of your time and energy it will consume. Maybe you chose it because it's what everybody else always said you'd be good at or told you to do.
There are times when our choices are made at desperate moments. A health issue or financial crisis can force us to make hasty decisions with little or no time to weigh our options or consider the consequences.
Someone once said that the hardest decisions in life aren't the ones between what's right and what's wrong, but what's right and what's best.
There's a constant battle in our hearts between what we want and what we need, and when we don't know the difference, our choices aren't always the best ones.
Luckily, we can learn from our mistakes. But sometimes, if you've been wounded by your choices, you're so terrified of blowing it again that you can't fully commit to anything.
It would be so much easier if you could just try one life on for size and see how it fits. And if it's not quite right, just trade it in for another one.
The thing about choices is that many times, we're stuck with the result for a while. Everything has a cost.
Thankfully, there are very few things that can't be undone or changed. You may be the victim of your choices, but you don't have to be the prisoner of them.
In the book, Alice in Wonderland, Alice came to a fork in the road: "Which road do I take?" she asked. "Where do you want to go?" responded the Cheshire Cat. "I don't know," she answered. "Then," said the Cat, "it doesn't matter."
Life is always asking you to make up your mind about something.
There's no way you can ever be 100 per cent sure about anything or anybody.
Sometimes you just have to take a risk, make up your mind and see what happens.
Or you can just stand still and let life move on, thinking it's safer.
But even no choice is a choice.